When I first read these, the filter I had on was the judgy one. The one worn by my former self, the filter by which I was the wronged wife. The Wife. But, as I read through it, I recognized the things that I did or didn’t do that contributed to my marriage getting to a point where my darling husband had an affair. And then I read it from the perspective of, 12-years later, being the Other Woman. I can’t say that these apply to his bride, because we don’t talk about her or dh in that way. He has acknowledged that he has had a lover throughout his entire marriage (25+ years)-the motivations for him are only known by him and are his. Regardless, that doesn’t take away from the validity of what Kat posted.
If you can say, without a doubt, that you have kept these tips in mind with your own primary relationship, then good for you. If not, then don’t cast stones and maybe, there’s a learning here.