perhaps this is what my dh means. i do have a new perspective, i no longer care that he just wants us to go back to they way things have always been. i have a new mindset and i am willing to say that it’s not okay anymore. that we should have a relationship that is full, complete and whole. that i no longer care to continue if he can’t make changes. or perhaps the truth is somewhere in the middle…
is me is really me 
This weekend, a friend of mine told me that I cannot hold myself responsible for the choices my husband makes — even for the sake of my children.
There’s nothing wrong with a new perspective. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and what you need!
this is normal! Marriage is choice not a prison! Remember that on your journey! You can say when, what, or how much! You have a beautiful voice! Use it!