I believe this is specific to each person and their past experiences. For me, it was how he made me feel safe, in every aspect, but specifically free from judgment and a genuine desire and interest in learning about me and desiring me as I am. I don’t have that in my every day real life, at least not the first 23.5 years of my marriage and then to experience it…a revelation. Even in marriage counseling, while I take complete accountability for my own actions, our counselor has been working with DH to explain why emotional safety and trust was so critical in the healing that my affair has had for my emotional well being, that I was lacking for the last several of our 25+ years together.
thank you – I sometimes feel like I am talking to a mirror with the wonderful connections I have made with real people here. I appreciate your honest response.
You are safest with me
i believe that to be true…~kitten
So, so true… Trust is the fruit of a relationship in which you know you are loved.
is me is really me 
100% yes. This is so very true.
isn’t it though? you don’t really know it until you actually experience it and then it all makes sense. thanks for commenting.
how do you measure emotional trust? serious question, and I truly love this analogy.
I believe this is specific to each person and their past experiences. For me, it was how he made me feel safe, in every aspect, but specifically free from judgment and a genuine desire and interest in learning about me and desiring me as I am. I don’t have that in my every day real life, at least not the first 23.5 years of my marriage and then to experience it…a revelation. Even in marriage counseling, while I take complete accountability for my own actions, our counselor has been working with DH to explain why emotional safety and trust was so critical in the healing that my affair has had for my emotional well being, that I was lacking for the last several of our 25+ years together.
thank you – I sometimes feel like I am talking to a mirror with the wonderful connections I have made with real people here. I appreciate your honest response.
You are safest with me
i believe that to be true…~kitten
So, so true… Trust is the fruit of a relationship in which you know you are loved.
Yup
Reblogged this on spacefreedomlove and commented:
Yes.
and even to some they only THINK they can trust. ; )
Damn straight