3 comments on “From the depths of the draft folder # 1

  1. Welcome back! My youngest just finished his freshman year of college, so your post did ignite my PTSD of the college application process. Fortunately a cup of coffee and a pastry cured my shudders. Ugh. I can sooooo relate. My kids went to the top public high school in town. The school wanted their best kids applying and going to the Ivies because it made the school look good. The parents were just as bad. We had told both kids that it was a state university unless a better college would offer enough money to equalize the cost.

    Both my kids ended up at the same state university. My son’s experience is far different from his older sister who elected to got the sorority route. She got into a top medical school and we just learned that she’s in the top 20% of her class which is about 75% Ivy grads. The college process is crazy. Congratulations on making it to the other side!!

  2. I’ve been missing you my friend. I can’t imagine the tornado that surrounds the college process, and have already seen these mothers that don’t have enough challenges in their lives or enough exposure to the real world to understand how stupid they sound. A child who can grow into a well rounded and happy adult is the best gift a parent can give. You’re a star.

  3. It’s interesting the differences in families. I did not get my degree until I was 52, and I admit the focus for my children growing up and attending school was simply do your best. When high school came and college was so much on the minds of everyone around us, it was embarrassingly low-key in our home. We had little saved to put toward their education, and community college is not poor parenting where we live and in our economic circle. On top of that, I recognized that neither of my kids were ready for the rigors of full-time, bigger school college life at 18, and I was perfectly okay with that. DD has dual vocational certificates and works hard at her chosen profession. DS went to community college for a year, quit to work full-time and coach almost full-time, and is now back in school and pursuing it with a admirable level of commitment and vigor while continuing to work and to coach. I’m enormously proud of both of them. As for the Tania, I wonder how she would feel if her kids broke away from the academics she prioritizes and prizes. It also makes me wonder if my expectations – try hard, be kind, do your best – were set too low for smart and capable children.

    I have thought about you and noted your absence, and I am so pleased to receive your comment and see new thoughts here as well. I am hopeful all is mostly well in your world, but I completely understand the self-imposed solitude while starting work on very challenging and personal subjects. You have my sympathy, and should you ever need another quiet place to safely share, my email is always open.

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