real life
1. Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session? Name the positions.
More often than not. Bent over, reverse cowgirl, cowgirl, missionary, anvil…*blush*
2. Have you ever had sex continuously for more than an hour? Was it all intercourse or other methods of sexual pleasure?
Yes. Oh my wetness yes on a lovely evening, in a city where we are both anonymous in a room that was unseasonably warm. And with him, it’s all methods of pleasure. *sigh*
3. Have you ever planned and devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)?
Given our situations, it’s more like extended moments in time. And yes.
4. Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?
*Maybe* Ok, to be clear, I don’t think I’m that loud. However, at one luxury boutique hotel, the management informed me that my room wasn’t made up because housekeeping “heard” I was busy. Very busy. *blush*
5. Have you ever had your sexual technique/style/skill openly praised by someone?
Only in the last couple of years.
6. Have you ever gotten really turned on by saying or hearing dirty talk?
Oh my wetness yes. Both *giggle*
Bonus: What word or words said during sex totally turn you off or distract you from the task at hand?
“I love you more than my luggage.” *hmpf* or being compared to a former lover
Another insightful and honest post from one of my favorites…
(Image courtesy of The Guardian.)
Maybe she was a housewife home alone. Maybe she was crying.
“My husband is an asshole,” she typed into Google.
More and more often, someone like her finds one of myAn Open Letter to Shitty Husbandsposts. Usually Vol. 1.
They’re getting 250-300 reads a day now, which is a lot relative to most of the posts here.
People are out there broken and looking for answers—probably easy ones—but there aren’t any.
When your marriage is falling apart, there are no magic how-to manuals on the internet to save you. No YouTube videos that show you how to do it better. No Buzzfeed lists to give you pointers.
A part of you dies.
So she types: “shitty husband” into the search engine and she stumbles upon this place.
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Anne read Vol. 6. She wrote me:
“This article is as if you…
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Every day, it’s a choice to work on your relationship every day. To pay attention. To care. To ride the tide and decide. We have been in counseling just over a year. It’s hard. It’s not a silver bullet. It’s knowing that we are working to get healthy. Whether or not the end game is remaining married. Or not. We both just know that we don’t want to make the same mistakes in the future.
Last month, a newer friend, asked me why didn’t I just leave. *sigh* no matter what many think. it isn’t that simple. While my marriage is seriously broken, maybe even irrevocably, the decision to end a marriage, or any relationship has many facets to be considered. I am incredibly proud of the posts that Lady M (The Woman Invisible) has posted regarding her divorce and post-divorce issues. Not because they are unexpected but because she acknowledges that she was likely not ready for it on some levels, and still needs to work through her own feelings and reactions in order to get healthy. It takes a lot to admit that, post a decision.
The last few months have been incredibly challenging when it comes to our counseling. We both has past feelings we have buried for so long that working through it is necessary before we can address much of what we have yet to work through. It’s a decision every day to be willing to work through the past to get towards a healthier, if yet uncertain future.
I’ve been on the road since February 10th and originally I intended to stay plugged in. With work, with my blogging, reading blogs and social media in general. And then DH and I had a difficult yet necessary counseling session in the morning, before we all boarded a flight to more tropical climes.
Traveling with children is challenging, yet rewarding. Traveling with a child that has special needs is the same. Ok, maybe a tad more challenging but the rewards are worth it. That said, realizing that I don’t know when or if we will travel as a family again, I made the deliberate decision to unplug, as much as possible and be in each moment. Whether it was as a family or one on one with DH or one of the kids. Frankly, I was exhausted; the new career change has proven to be a much harder ramp than I expected, marriage counseling continues though we seem to be at a stalemate, the oldest is fielding college acceptances and declines left and right, my treatments are starting up again etc. In other words, real life is just that real life.
Plugging back in, completely, has proven to be difficult. The sheer volume that all of us must deal with on a daily basis is staggering. The backlog in my work inbox looks as if I’ve been off-grid for months instead of 2-weeks! Even my wordpress “blogs I follow” list is a bit intimidating. Though I am anxious to catch up with those that I follow regularly-I’ve missed the community.
the last line of the article sums it up nicely. it’s an ongoing journey and as my own son enters full-on puberty, there’s the added complexity of hormone’s and even more societal expectations. And it is exhausting, no matter how diligent, or how much you love your child; and so you find solace in the moments such as the kindness of child who thinks your child’s quirks are just that, quirks. Or the person in the parking lot who doesn’t honk their horn as they wait and wait for your spot as you struggle with your child and getting their backpack in at just the right angle or when said child lays their head on your shoulder at the end of the day and says “love you” before scampering off with the dog towards their room.
Yup, he’s exactly the way he’s supposed to be.
Dearest friends, fans, FAMILY!
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Over the years it has been my freehand spray paint artwork that many of you are accustomed to seeing. There will be more but for now, there is this. My wife and I are working hard on keeping you up to date. We are blown away by the more than 60K followers who show there support to us daily on the blog and other social media platforms!
So, here is a scan of my brain and the Tumor is circled. Its bigger than first thought. On the 9th I have one more MRI w/ spectroscopy to determine the rate of growth and cell types. Then it gets really hairy.
I am doing the best I can to be in good spirits and will continue to strive! It really helps knowing I have touched so many people with my artwork…
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As always, I find Matt to be quite the sage. Spot on, sadly so.
Any time I’d hear about a couple getting a divorce, I always assumed one of them did something bad.
I’d usually suspect the guy. Of cheating. Of hitting. Of being verbally abusive. Of having a problem with gambling or alcohol or child abuse.
But then I got divorced and started talking to lots of other people who are either divorced or in troubled marriages.
And that’s when it became clear that all the common “reasons” for divorce probably don’t cause most of them.
Good people ruin marriage. I don’t mean people, by virtue of being good, ruin marriage. I mean good people with the best intentions ruin marriage. All the time.
They are not bad. They are simply bad at marriage.
Not With a Bang
“This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
Not with a bang but a…
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